Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Please excuse me while I vent . . .

Ok, I don't want to offend anyone, so if you're easily offended, you may as well stop reading now and click on over to a nice friendly blog.

I'm going to give you the quick and dirty and leave out all the nonsense.  I requested an increase in child support because ex went back to work.  Ok, it was approved but the judge has to sign off on it.  I've never had a reason to transfer my case to my new town.  Well, buddy, I do now.

After missing 3 classes and driving two hours to hear my name called followed by some random date in early March I got mad.  I don't mean a little aggravated.  Apparently today was only motion hour, whatever that means.  I had called the child support office 4 times last week to verify that I really and truly had to be there today and was told that yes, it is imperative and the judge kicks out the motion if the petitioner isn't in court.  Ok, yes ma'am, I understand. 

I had to pull my children out of school for the entire day and my mother had to reschedule a dr's appointment and drive an hour to meet me so she could watch them.

I literally saw red.  I was literally seething.  I can't come up with another word in the English language to describe my anger.

The primary reason I hadn't put in the request (yes it is a request, the child support office can refuse to take a case) at the new office was because I was afraid there would be a gap or a delay in receiving the support.  I left a message at the local office to see if I can transfer my case there.  I hope they call.  I hope they accept the transfer.

On top of that, I had gotten to town 3 hours early to spend time with my oldest and after numerous phone calls, he finally called back to say he'd just woken up and didn't feel good so he was going back to bed.

Today really sucked.

Tomorrow is a new day.


Beyond My Garden said...

i am so sorry. I know how important child support can be and having worked for a lawyer who helped many people get get their child support. I understand the stress involved and how it seems that the courts don't care. The system dehumanizes people, sometimes understandably, but it is still very frustrating. I hope the best for you. If you would like me to come lecture some respect into that eldest one, let me know.

floweringmama said...

Oh Nellie,
My oldest is a stinker for lack of a better word. I think I could've filled an ocean with the tears I've cried over him.

Dawn said...

So sorry for the crappy day:(((
If I lived closer I'd be over there with a box of chocolates:( Or just a good ol' bottle of wine!

You're right- tomorrow is a New Day!
wishing you a better rest of the week:)

Nancy@A Rural Journal said...

Bummer. Seems anything to do with the court system gets drawn out, rescheduled, delayed, postponed or cancelled -- so sorry about your frustrating day. I hope everything works smoothly for you from now on. :)

Jules said...

Man what a bad day! I know about that child support thing in this state, it well.... sucks! Not a choice word but it applies. Glad this posted with a happy little flower though, always tomorrow :)
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

PS I'm here if I can do anything!

Bossy Betty said...

You had a frustrating day! Hope today is better. Hang in there!

Out on the prairie said...

I thought you lived with each other and were married.Sorry this has happened.

floweringmama said...

Thanks Dawn, that is exactly what I had when I got home last night!

Steve, I have remarried, just having to deal the ex and the court system really stinks.

Jean said...

Dang...The court system sucks everywhere...I guess. I have my own stories. Thank-goodness they are in the past. You have a right to vent!

Corner Gardener Sue said...

I hope you get all that straightened out. That does not sound like a good day.